“Why waist your time trying, just pray for them!” In my life I have associated and even personally know unbendable people. And the thing is, they can’t see themselves for who they truly are. In today’s world, psychology has give us a name for few of the extreme of them, narcissist, calling it a mental illness, “please, you got to be kidding!” To me there’s no difference between selfishly stubbornness and narcissism, seems to be the same thing, but then again I am not a doctor in psychology field. My name for them is unbendable people, no use in prettying up ugly. Giving it a name to me is like giving an excuse for bad behaviour. I guess there must be a psychological name for the devil also,lol.

This kind of personality where someone is all about me, myself and I, I consider to be unacceptable, especially when once we step outside the safety and comfort of our homes, interaction with other is inevitable. Whether going to work, groceries, shopping, doctors appointments, school… Let’s not be ignorant, the world we’re living in right now with the pandemic, shows us just how much we interact with each other that a infectious disease such as Covid-19 can reach to the East, West, North and South of the earth, affecting the entire planet. We must all be considerate and conscious minded towards each other to make our world peaceful. To know that unbendable people are in our midst and we have to be the sacrificial lamb for their selfish-stubbornness that only creates strife. They feed off the vulnerability of the good, taking kindness for weakness,to serve their own purpose. “That is ever so wrong.”

I believe they know exactly what they’re doing and we just fall for it, just like maybe their parents did. I can’t believe that there’s a diagnosis for such a wicked way of being and no cure. Whatever happened to the saying, “do unto other as you’d like them to do to you.” Come on, you don’t have to be a so called religious person to know that. My problem these unbendable people is, they’re takers, with no appreciation in return to those the givers. I know they know right from wrong, to me it’s all about if you’d let them get away with it they’ll take advantage. You got to let them know right away it ain’t cool. On the other hand, I do truly believe that there are those who can’t help themselves. But for those who sees nothing wrong with themselves, big problem to me. They are like the bad child only a mother can love, “too out of control and can’t be disciplined.”

I consider myself to be a reasonable, loving, nurturing, compassionate, understanding and giving person. I am not saying this because of how or what I think of myself, just repeating what people say to me about me, and with all humility, I do have a problem with it because I truly believe when you are taught right and know right from wrong then do it without looking for accolades from others. My reason for me to seem to be a hater of such unbending people is because I believe in Karma and I do have a problem with people who are takers and not give or even show a little appreciation, carry on like you are in titled. Another thing is, I don’t like to see others nor myself get hurt for doing or being, good. I’ve witnessed and felt the (PTSD) post traumatic stress disorder from being in relationships and the presence of unbendable people. The fact that they want you to bend to their will, with no regards to yours, and you give and all they do is take without meeting you halfway. “Blatant disregard for empathy, like they can’t hear themselves when they speak and do what they do.” You give and they take and keep on taking to fulfill their own selfish needs. Leaving you broken and helpless. The mirror of consciousness they refuse look into, because any reflection of their own personality, they can’t handle. They don’t get along with people exactly like themselves, to the point of resentment. I can’t believe this is! If only they can see themselves outside, of their own self the way others do.

Bending allows us to make the changes necessary for the betterment and well being of our mind, body, soul and all that is around us. Whenever you find an unbendable person stuck, leave them and just pray for them, leave them in God’s hands. Remember he’s the miracle work, not you. No amount of fasting and praying would help them , God has to come himself, trust me. Don’t allow them to take you down their path, because that’s what they’ll to you with your good-nature ways, which will only cause you to be sucked into their hell, along side them. They are way too unbendable for you to think you can straighten them up. You can only break them and yourself by trying. They are energy suckers, and when you’re finished with associating yourself with them, then, and then only you’d begin to realize how much lighter and refresh you feel.