Love. We take it for granted. Yet should be like a treasure we can all share with one another  and because treasures are so hard to find, we should cherish it forever. Love should not simply be defined as an emotion; emotions can be temporary. 1John 3:18 Let us not love in words or talk, but in deed and in truth. Love making between two should not be confused with loving someone. Making love is not just the unveiling of one’s nakedness to each other and engaging in a sexual act, but rather, it is allowing each other to go into a sacred connection of mind and body for a religious and spiritual purpose. It should be an extension of one’s love for each other in the highest form. That is why sex (intercourse) is not to be done casually, recreationally (booty call) or maliciously among individuals. Love is sacred and a discipline of the mind, body and spirit. I say this because I believe that God created love within us for that purpose and the conflict that we have with love is in our emotions (flesh). The spirit can endure the power of true love, which never dies. We can never embrace love as being energy, a powerful source of our being. Like with God, we cannot touch or see love, there is no tangible evidence other than what is in our mind and that rules our heart. “God is love.” 1John 4:16 We have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwell in love dwell in God and God in him.

The concept of Valentine’s Day puts undue pressure on people to be in that four letter word: Love. Most of the young people of today confuse sex for love or being in an relationship. Being single on Valentine’s Day makes you feel so lonely even when you truly aren’t and have friends and family. It takes you back to puberty when you first discovered you are attracted to someone and you’d try your best to get their attention because you see so many of your friends and people your age in relationships and you’re not. You feel like you’re missing out on something or, like you’ve been cheated. The truth is love is like a garden and it need tending in order to grow and anyone who has ever tended a garden knows it takes a lot of sacrifice and perseverance. Some of us see love like what we see in the movies, with the happy endings, but the movies don’t always convey all truth.

The meaning of Valentine’s day according to dictionaries is a day of romance, exchanging of cards, candies, gifts and flowers to a sweetheart. Valentine’s day is celebrated all around the world as a celebration of love and relationship created by companies who saw an opportunity to make money. It is much like Christmas which should be the celebration of Christ birth, but instead it is about businesses making profit. Consequently, some people are spending what they don’t have on gifts to impress or be liked and with an expectation to give and receive. To society, both of these things should exemplify the true meaning of love. But we are wrong about that. We are also wrong when we accept or expect material things for love. 1Corinthians Let all that you do be done in love, so even if you are given something materialistic it should be given with love. Showing love doesn’t have anything to do with material things, material thing are an easy way to try to account for not being physically and emotionally present but it is not the same. Romans 13:8 Owe no man anything, but to love one another.

The biblical meaning of love, 1Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on it’s own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong doing, but rejoices with truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things.

So let your Valentine’s Day be, not so much about being in a relationship or wanting to be in love, but reflecting on the love you already have and to give it to other like yourself who don’t want to be alone or feels lonely; it doesn’t have to be to your sweetheart. Luke 6:38 Give and it shall be given unto you. God is going to send you someone, the right help mate. Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said, “it is not good that the man should be alone.” Remember you’ve got family and friend and for some, even fur babies, who love you as well as the greatest love of all, the love of God, his love is unconditional. “Why search for love when love is within and surrounds you?”